Get your credit report — Check all debts listed against your name at national credit bureaus, payment history, credit standing. Make sure your divorce settles all debt issues and that you know what you have to do to establish good credit in your own name.

Divorce Helpline — For California cases, this is your best source for legal information, advice, coaching, mediation, negotiation, arbitration, problem solving, settlement agreements and paperwork. These top-quality family law attorneys won't go to cour but will guide you through it the best way possible short of litigation.

National Association of Legal Document Preparers — Members are listed state-by-state. They have members in most states and it is quick and easy to check your state and see if anyone near you is listed.

Find a Lawyer — Lawyers.com, a service of the Martindale-Hubbel directory, has 420,000 lawyer biographies and law firm descriptions plus information about the law and the legal system.

Divorce As Friends — Learn how to end conflict, heal hurt, and if necessary, part as friends. The author of this site was featured on Oprah for his work in divorce.

Children's Rights Council — "The Best Parent is Both Parents."

National Fatherhood Initiative

Kiersey Personality Test — Understanding your (and your spouse's) temperament may help you decide the best way to negotiate. Take the test for you and then on behalf of your Ex. Suggest that your Ex try this, too. After the test, follow the links to Wikipedia articles to understand how your personality types interact and how best to deal with yourself and the kind of person your Ex is.

The Transition Institute of Marin — Divorce support for people in Marin County, San Francisco, Sonoma and the entire Bay Area.